Posts tagged ‘wife’

September 11, 2013

Marriage

Marriage

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September 11, 2013

A Short Guide To A Happy Marriage

A Short Guide To A Happy Marriage

September 5, 2013

Marriage

Marriage

September 4, 2013

For My Husband

For My Husband

September 2, 2013

The Beauty Of Marriage

The Beauty Of Marriage

September 2, 2013

Marriage

Marriage

September 2, 2013

Never Get Tired

Never Get Tired

August 31, 2013

Love Being Priceless

Love Being Priceless

August 30, 2013

5 Ways To Give Your Husband Love

by Kristina Manscill

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The quality of our marriages depends on the effort we are willing to put into them. No one just lands herself into a happy and blissful marriage, it takes a little effort. The more willing we are to put our thoughts, prayers and efforts into our marriages, the more fun, lively and fulfilling they will be.

Here are a few ways to put extra thought and energy into loving your husband:

Hold the criticism and pour out the praise! OK, it’s true — sometimes you need to vent your frustrations. But, husbands need praise too — and a lot more of it. Studies show that successful marriages have positive interactions that outweigh the negative by 5 to 1. So, if you absolutely have to complain about something, make sure it’s not all you do. Love and praise your husband.

Pray for him. Not just because he needs God’s help, but also because prayer helps you too. By taking time each day to pray for your husband, you are training your brain to consider his needs, goals and things that he might be struggling with. I also like to pray for added inspiration to know how I can best support him as his spouse.

Treat him how you want him to become. This is true in all relationships. Positive reinforcement goes a lot further than complaints. One time I apologized to my husband for what sounded to me like a negative attitude and he said, “I’ve never heard you complain. You are so positive.” The fact that he saw this trait in me made me want to always be this way. Find ways to compliment your husband and look for the good in him.

Love him, serve him and surprise him. The best marriages are a result of effort and work that is put into them. Put effort into loving your husband. Plan ahead and leave a cute note for him to find. Treat him to a surprise vacation. Give him tickets to see his favorite sports team. Hide behind the front door and wrap him in a HUGE hug when he gets home. Whatever it is, put your whole heart into it.

Know his language. Sure, flooding his email with heart-felt notes is cute, but if his love language is physical touch, it’s not going to mean as much. I had a college roommate that used to leave me notes throughout our apartment. I later found out that was her love language, and how she feels most appreciated. She thought she was building our friendship by writing me all these notes; however, my love language is quality time. I actually felt closer to my friends I hung out with a lot.

To love your husband effectively, you need to know what makes him tick. Sometimes we love others the way that we like to be loved ourselves, and then wonder what went wrong. Anyone can do a Google search and find an overwhelming amount of ideas on how to love their husband, but ultimately you are the one to know what will bring the greatest success. The best way to show love is to actively try to learn more about your husband and cater to his needs and preferences as they come up. And yes, they change over time. So have fun, be proactive and go with the flow. Your marriage (and your husband) will thank you.

August 30, 2013

7 Ways to Turn Your Husband’s Bad Day Into a Good One

Here are 7 easy ways to help turn your husband’s bad day into a good one (a repost). :

  • Give him space  – When your husband has challenging days at work as often as mine does (his role requires frequent audits), you learn that some days he needs to talk and other days he just needs to turn on the Playstation and blow up some bad guys. Tell him, with words, that you are there for him and for anything he needs, then let him choose what would help the most.
  • Focus on the Good – If he is in the mood to talk, after he vents and lets the day go, find things to celebrate – even if it’s chocolate chip cookies for dessert or his favorite show on TV that night. The little things that make us smile can go a long way to cheer us up. Remembering how much we have to be thankful for is always a good idea.
  • Say Thank You – Thank him, for all his hard work and everything he does for you so that you can have a home together. Gratitude is a powerful force and when you shower it upon your husband, it has the power to instantly lift his mood and make him feel like the king of the world. And we all know hubbies love that, right?
  • Make him laugh – Don’t worry, you don’t have to be a comedian to do this, you can watch his favorite comedy on TV or funny videos on YouTube. For any Seinfeld fans, there is a hilarious guy on Twitter who writes tweets as if Seinfeld was still on the air. He tweets things like: “George tries to hide that despite seeing every episode he has no idea what’s happening on Game of Thrones. Elaine buys defective yoga pants.” You can find him here.
  • Touch Him – Hold his hand, hug him tight, squeeze his knee when you are watching TV. Whatever way he likes to be touched – use the power of touch to connect and soothe. If he asks, “Why are you touching me so much?” Tell him you just read an article (yes, this one!) that said the University of Illinois studied NBA basketball teams and found that the more on-court touching there was early in the season, the higher the teams scored by the end of the season. If it works for the NBA, it works for the Wifey in my book!
  • Flirt – Remember how he loves to feel like he is the king of the world? Well that’s not exactly true. What your husband loves is to feel like he is the king  of *your* world. Flirting is the most direct, most fun way to convey that to him. It’s also a way you get to have fun, make him laugh and touch him at the same time. It’s a triple whammy of deliciousness. In fact, you should do that even when he’s not having a bad day, don’t you think?
  • Just listen – Okay, ladies, this may seem obvious but I know there are a lot of you like me out there, looking for magic wands to wave and problems to fix when all our husbands need is just our love and listening ear. No matter how tempted you may be to find 5 potential solutions to his problems, stop, look at his beautiful eyes, focus and just listen.
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